Four Things that Kills a Relationship~Study!

Four Things that Kills a Relationship~Study!

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Four Things that Kills a Relationship:

No one really knows how long a relationship will remain, but the Professor John Gottman can probably tell whether you will be happy after or before the breakup. In some research that was published earlier this year, Gottman, who has been analyzing relationships for more than 40 years, studied couples for the length of their relationships to understand why people break-up. Four factors were found by Gottman, and if a couple’s relationship was overrun with these then the chances are more they would divorce/break-up around six years into their marriage. The factors were:

1). Criticism: All partners moan about each other — from leaving the washing up to being late for dinner — but destructive criticism (when you criticize their personality) is harmful to a relationship, says Gottman. For example: “You’re late because you don’t care about me.” This type of criticism, that suggests the other person is bad or wrong at some deeper level, “strikes at the heart of the other person”.

2). Contempt: Gottman found that having contempt for a partner was the biggest reason for divorce. The contempt which includes sarcasm, name-calling, mimicking, and eye-rolling makes the other person feel worthless.

3). Defensiveness: When someone consistently makes excuses for their mistakes, it can signal the end, says Gottman. This is worse when partners try to score points off one another on top of being frustrating.

4). Stonewalling: This is when someone cuts off all communication there are no attempts or effort to respond or connect with their partner. Stonewalling can be a result of continued criticism, contempt, and defensiveness

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Magnets Can Make people think of LOVE;

Magnets Can Make people think of LOVE;

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New York: People are more attracted to their romantic partners after playing with magnets, a new study has found. The research is an example of a social priming effect. The idea holds that when people are "primed" or inspired to think about a particular concept - such as physical magnetic attraction - it affects their knowledge in surprising ways. The magnets may make the comparison of love as a physical force more prominent in people's minds, leading them to report closer feelings with their partners, said Andrew Christy, a graduate student at Texas A&M University in the US.

Researchers asked 120 students aged 18 to 22 years who were either in relationships or had been in relationships within the last few months, to fill out survey about their connection with their partners. Some of the students were given magnetized blocks that attracted each other, while some had magnetized blocks that opposed each other, and others had blocks without magnets. The participants who played with the magnetically attracting blocks reported greater attraction, satisfaction and commitment in their relationships or recent relationships compared with those students given the other two block types, Christy said. The students were told to take a "mental break" by playing with blocks, putting them together and taking them apart, 'Live Science' reported.

"The nonmagnetic and the repel condition didn't seem to differ from one another at all," he said. In their next experiment with 150 students, researchers

included only blocks with magnets that attracted and magnetized blocks. The people who played with the magnetized blocks again reported greater levels of attraction, satisfaction, and commitment in their relationships than those who played with magnetized blocks. The research was published in the journal PLOS ONE.

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